Now that Annabelle is 18 months and counting, I’m finally starting to get the itch to expand my brood. I know this because while I was in Hawaii last week enjoying an adult’s only vacay with my husband and brother/sister-in law, I totally had baby fever from seeing all the brand new babies rolling around in strollers. You’d think I’d be thanking my lucky stars I wasn’t carting a child around in palm tree paradise, but no, I was staring longingly at those tiny babes in bathing suits thinking that maybe I wanted one, too. P.S. Who in the world thinks about going to Hawaii when they’re like 4 weeks post-partum? I don’t mean this as a criticism, I actually think it’s genius. I wish that was where my head was at 4 weeks post-partum! You can bet I’m not going to forget this whole Hawaii vacation idea during my next maternity leave!! (Jeff, take note if you’re reading!)
I definitely would like my kids to be closer in age because that’s how it was with my brother. He was only 16 months older than me, and only one grade apart growing up. Though we were close, we def had a love/hate relaysh and spent a lot of time bickering. But being close in age, it was like having a built in friend while on vacation, someone to defend your honor in high school, and a drinking buddy in the adult years. It’s nice having a close sibling. I want that for Annie B. So really, if I want them to be relatively close in age and be able to go to school together, relate to each other, etc. – I better get on the stick. No pun intended.
When is the best time to be on vacation I MEAN maternity leave?
A while ago I was trying to plan my next pregnancy around the most ideal times to be on maternity leave. I had AB in July, so I had half the summer and fall off, which was great. However, it wasn’t all that great being a two-ton-tilly in 100 degree weather as a mama to be. So then I thought the perf time to get preggo would be August and then I’d pop baby out in May and have the whole summer off, but not actually sweat my lady balls off in the California mid-summer sun. Oh but wait, it would be great to have an October baby and then I’d have all the holiday months off, affording me a chance to spend tons of time with family back in Indiana over Thanksgiving and Christmas (or Hawaii). So that would mean getting pregs in January. Hmm… this window of time isn’t looking good.
So then I just decided to not try to plan the perfect time to have the baby, and just let nature take its course. No trying, no ovulation calendar, no stress. And then I start thinking about reasons to NOT get pregnant just yet… all selfish reasons, like my friend’s wedding. How fun does a girl’s reunion weekend sound with lots of wine? Amaze. But geez, it’s not until September! I’d also like to visit my brother in Nashville and get my Southern bar crawl on this spring – without child, preferably. And I’m kind of on this exercise/losing weight kick right now…do I want to get all skinny only to get all fat so soon? Like I said – all selfish reasons!
Basically, there is never going to be the perfect time to get pregnant. There’s always a reason to put it off, a better time to do it, etc. But at some point you just gotta bite the bullet and remove the goalie, know what I mean?
Ok ladies, tell me…do you know the perfect time to get pregnant and have baby #2? Is it easier to bring a little brother or sister into this world when your toddler is two and a half or three plus? Is spring, summer, or fall the better time to be on maternity leave (I’m not even entertaining the winter months)? Help a sistah out!